Being a progressive, liberal-minded political activist mom who learned everything about what NOT to do from my own mom, I set out to have this warm, open, communicative relationship with my children. I envisioned us sharing our inner most thoughts, feelings, dreams and aspirations and them including me in their plans of becoming sexually active, seeking my advice over others and maybe being the open mom that their friends could come to as well.

I have read several thoughtful and inspiring diaries on this web site and thought I would start some musings about raising older children.  I am the mom of a 15 year old beautiful, independent minded, strong willed daughter and a 20 year old son who battles self defeating behavior and is trying to figure out his place in the grand scheme of things.  It has been a journey like no other, and most days I love being a mom and feel blessed that my children have taught me the true meaning of unconditional love in its purest form!!  

My general philospohy with my kids through the older years is "Pick Your Battles".  I don't always pick the right ones, but the ones I do pick I try to go into battle GRACEFULLY.  Admittedly, I sometimes miss the mark.

So am interested in hearing from liberal minded parents on how they deal with drug use, drug testing, body image, sexual identity, sexual activity, religion, dating, self esteem, respecting your kids' privacy vs. trying to stay one step ahead, homework and college prep issues, etc.